Get Out! Is there ever a Time to Ask Someone to Leave the D-Group?

Get Out! Is there ever a Time to Ask Someone to Leave the D-Group?

(The following transcript is the cliff notes version of the video. It’s important to watch the video first.)

I have had to ask only 3 people to leave my D-Group in the past 10 years. Here are the reasons:

  1. Uncommitted

Additionally, laziness will breed complacency in the group. Missing meetings, excuses for not memorizing Scripture, failing to log H.E.A.R. entries, or sitting uninterested during discussion times lowers the morale of the others in the group. You have heard that a Bad Apple will spoil the bunch. Well, the same applies in discipleship.

This type of behavior must be addressed immediately. Meet with this individual privately to inquire about his/her attitude and actions. Remind him or her of the commitment made at the outset of the discipleship relationship. It’s important to be long suffering with immature or undiscipled believers; however, you should not allow laziness to fester for long.

(Here is another reason for having group members sign a covenant at the outset of the group.)

  1.  Unteachable

Another reason for dismissal from the d-group is that a person doesn’t possess a teachable spirit. Teachability—two other qualities are faithfulness and availability—is an indispensable quality for growth. In one situation, I asked an individual to leave the group because he monopolized the discussion week after week. It was obvious he wanted to demonstrate his knowledge of the Word, rather than learn from interacting with others.

Stay tuned next week for Part 2….

Have you ever asked someone to leave your discipleship group? 

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Robby Gallaty is the Senior Pastor of Long Hollow Baptist Church in Hendersonville, TN. He was radically saved out of a life of drug addiction on November 12, 2002. In 2008, he began Replicate Ministries to equip and train men and women to be disciples who make disciples. He is also the author of Growing Up: How to Be a Disciple Who Makes Disciples (2013), Firmly Planted: How to Cultivate a Faith Rooted in Christ (2015), Rediscovering Discipleship: Making Jesus’ Final Words Our First Work (2015), Foundations: A 260-Day Bible Reading Plan for Busy Believers (2015), and The Forgotten Jesus: How Western Christians Should Follow an Eastern Rabbi (2017).